Sermon from St. Andrew’s Scotia, 3/23/25 Exodus 3:1-15

 

          Recently the kids and I got our dog a puzzle. We have a four-year-old miniature schnauzer named Jarvis and we think he is smart, so we thought he might like a challenge. The puzzle consists of 4 plastic boxes that open in various ways. The first step is to put a small treat in each box while they are fully open so the dog knows that treats are in there. And slowly and gradually you begin partially closing some of the boxes with treats in them and letting the dog figure out how to get to the treat. So after some time of the boxes fully opened, me and the kids sat down around the puzzle, we put the treats in and we partially closed two of the boxes. Jarvis’s immediate reaction was to stare at the boxes and bark. Occasionally he would kind of kick back his feet and look at us and then bark. I knew what this meant from our puppy training classes … he was frustrated. And it is so hard to not just open the box and give the poor little fluffy guy a treat when he is so clearly distressed. But I also know from puppy training classes, that if I don’t give in, he will figure it out soon after the barking. He will eventually believe he can do it and try.

But it’s hard to wait through the frustration. Partly because he is cute and we love him and partly because we have empathy and we all know what frustration feels like and it does not feel good. Life is full of so many frustrations. Sometimes it is obstacles that interfere with our plans like illness, flat tires or canceled plans. Sometimes it is an inability to understand like hard math problems at school, crises at work or why people think and act the way they do. And sometimes it’s general frustration with life and God- you hear frustration behind questions like why do bad things happen to good people, how could God let this happen and why did this horrible thing have to happen.

It is a feeling common to all of humanity and across time, it can be heard throughout the pages of the Bible. Think of how Jonah felt when he was sent by God to Ninevah, the place of his brutal and destructive enemies, God sent him to proclaim their demise. Jonah begrudgingly does it only to find out that God changed God’s mind. And Jonah is frustrated. Or Job, he did everything he thought was righteous and just and yet catastrophe and suffering pours down on him. Prophet after prophet follows God’s will and does what is right only to be ignored, rejected and sometimes killed. The Old Testament story today is the beginning of the story of Moses freeing the Israelites from Egyptian captivity and on the journey that follows there is a lot of frustration, to the point where many wish they had never followed Moses out of Egypt in the first place.

 And all the while the people do a lot of frustrating things. In today’s reading God calls Moses directly and tells him exactly what to do from a burning bush and still Moses doubts he can do. And on the journey that follows God continually acts on behalf of the Israelites, providing for their needs, rescuing them and giving them guidance and yet they doubt, disobey and outright reject God over and over again. It’s kind of a frustrating story.

 And yet, God sticks with it. God does not give up or abandon, but stays in the relationship. With Moses, God does not give in to the doubt or frustration, knowing that with God, Moses will do what he is called to do. God endures our frustrated barks, cries and doubts, staying by our side, staying with us as we get to the other side of it.

I wonder if Moses felt frustrated when he asked God for a name? Moses says, “if I come to the Israelites and say to them, The God of your ancestors has sent me to you, and they ask me What is his name? What shall I say to them?” and God answers “I AM WHO I AM.” A little vague I would say, and not at all like the tribal gods of that time who had very specific names.

In this passage, God gives three ways of saying God’s name. the first is “I AM WHO I AM” and then right after that God shortens it to simply “I Am.” And then right after that God says, “This you shall say to the Israelites, “The Lord, the God of your ancestors, the God of Abraham, the God of Isaac, and the God of Jacob, has sent me to you.” So, Lord is the third way. In the New Oxford Commentary notes on this it says, “The third name is LORD. In Hebrew the name has four letters, “yhwh” (perhaps pronounced Yahweh), and is thus known as the Tetragrammaton. Like the first two versions of God’s name, it is from a root meaning “to be.” God’s name thus has a verbal rather than a noun form …”[1] So, in other words, the three ways God says God’s name to Moses are all verbs rather than nouns. Nouns would have been typical names for gods at that time, just as we typically use nouns as our names these days.

 I remember a long time ago I read that in Eastern cultures they are more likely to teach children language by using verbs as opposed to in our Western culture where we teach children language by starting with nouns like “mom” “dad” “ball” “milk.” So it’s a different way of thinking for us, God identified not as a noun but rather as a verb.

          And then right after this, God tells Moses to gather all the elders of Israel and tell them what God has done and what will happen next. And after that God tells Moses to go to the King of Egypt and when the King of Egypt does not listen, God tells Moses the plan for what will happen after that. God has plans and is taking action.

          The message is clear, God is not a statue that will be put in one place and stared at admiringly. God is a presence; God is an active part of this relationship with humans. God is moving and doing and being.

     As a hospital chaplain, I have found that when I ask someone if they believe in God, it may bring a short answer or explanation, maybe an uncomfortable confession about no longer going to church or a defensive reaction against religion or even a shrug, but when I ask “how have you experienced God’s presence in your life?” It usually brings a beautiful conversation filled with powerful stories, moving experiences and personally sacred moments shared with emotion. Of course creeds, beliefs and artistic depictions are meaningful, beautiful and enduring, but God as presence is felt, experienced and witnessed. God as I am. God as being.

          You can hear this same form of experiential testimony in the Psalm we read today, especially the last two lines, “For you have been my helper,

and under the shadow of your wings I will rejoice. My soul clings to you;

your right hand holds me fast.” It is an experience of God as being, a very real and near presence.

          I think there is something really powerful that happens when we can accept God as “I am who I am”. When we can pause from trying to solve, explain, identify and label. When we can accept God is who God is and rest in God’s presence. When our soul can cling to God and we can rest under the shadow of God’s wings.

          It takes trust to follow a God who goes by “I am who I am.” The call to discipleship is an invitation into a journey, that we may not always understand and we may not always predict. It requires acceptance and trust.

          And sometimes the not knowing and the not understanding can be frustrating. I feel frustrated when I see things happening in the world that are unjust. I am frustrated when I see people being treated without dignity. I am frustrated when people are hurting or suffering and there is no solution. I am frustrated when I see bad things happening that I cannot control. And I am frustrated by normal life things. Like when our ceiling leaks every time we get a heavy rain even after we have the roof patched. Or when the kids keep leaving their shoes in the hallway. Or when a computer doesn’t work or traffic is slow or the things I can’t control just keep stacking up. I feel like my poor little dog barking with frustration and bewilderment as he smells a treat he can’t figure out how to get. He’s probably thinking, why are they making this hard, just give me the treat!? And I get it because sometimes it feels like, why is life so hard, why can’t we just know why things are the way they are, what will happen next and how to fix everything. Why can’t God do what we want God to do, why can’t we figure out the why’s and the how’s?

          And to this God says, “I am who I am.” And that can be incredibly freeing. We can give it up. We don’t have to understand it all or solve it all or carry the weight of the world on our shoulder. God is who God is and there is nothing we can do about that but trust. Not a helpless kind of giving up that leaves us sitting around with nothing to do- but rather, a kind of acceptance that opens our hearts to hearing and seeing and feeling God’s presence in the world. A kind of acceptance that releases us to see the beauty of God’s presence in our lives and the lives of others. The kind of acceptance that brings us to our knees in worship as we recognize that we are not God and we don’t have to pretend to be because our God is present and active and real.

 

          I hope that as we journey toward the cross this Lent, it can be a time of release. Release from the things that block our vision of who God is around us. Release from the frustrations that keep us pretending we can control things we can’t. Release from an inability to see the very real presence of God in others, especially in those we may not expect. And trust, knowing that God is who God is and that is something our souls can cling to.

         

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[1] The New Oxford Annotated Bible. 2010 Oxford University Press, 2010, pp 86-86.

Sermon from First UMC Delmar, 3/9/25 Luke 4:1-13 “Grounded”

 

    One summer when I was young, one of my neighborhood friends suggested we walk up the street and enter the high school and watch my sister’s dress rehearsal for her dance recital. I can’t remember if I questioned this idea, but I do remember that I went. We often ran around on the block through neighbor’s back yards and the school was just at the top of the street so it probably seemed ok. Until … we came out of the rehearsal and saw the whole neighborhood frantically looking for us. Remember, this is before cell phones so no one knew where we were. My mom was so worried and I was in so much trouble. I received my punishment … I was grounded. Right in the middle of summer, the best days for playing, particularly in Northeast Ohio where I lived. Instead of running around with the neighborhood friends, I would have lots of time to think, reflect and wallow. Lots of time to think about my decision-making, who it effects and how I would do it differently. And, honestly, I don’t know that I was ever grounded again … so I guess you could say it was effective.

 

         I don’t know if kids still get “grounded.” I know that my husband and I don’t really ground our kids, we typically use screen time as the currency for consequences- taking it away when needed and adding more when earned. But when I hear the word “grounded” it still conjures up memories of punishment, consequence and dread. I’m not sure where the term comes from, perhaps it’s like when there is bad weather and all planes are “grounded.” You have to stay put, no taking off, not until you are ready. But I wonder if there is another meaning, perhaps one that involves a spiritual component. Sometimes when people are looking for stability or calm or peace they will say “I need to feel grounded.” It’s like when emotions, worry, anxiety, and stress are pulling us up into a whirlwind of chaos until we are spinning and can’t remember which way is up and which way is down and so we look for a way to get our feet back on the ground. To be grounded and steady even while everything else is swirling around us. It’s like finding our spiritual center to keep us from falling apart. Or connecting with the presence of the Holy Spirit that is within us, rather than chasing other things for fulfillment, bringing ourselves back to peace and steadiness, while also, like something our parents might have said to us as children, “thinking about what you have done and how you will do it differently next time.”

 

           In the reading from Deuteronomy, there is grounding instructions for the nomadic people of Israel. They have been wandering, searching, following, looking for a steady place to rest their feet, trusting that the path they are following will lead them to the promised land and they get these instructions about what to do when they come into the promised land. They are to make an offering and with it, tell their story. The story of their people- the whole story about Jacob and Moses and oppression and wandering and God’s steadfast presence. Then, even in this new land, they will remember who they are, they will remember that it was God who brought them there, they will remember their story of being oppressed, afraid … lost. They will be grounded in that reality, and it will shape their actions and words, it will center their hearts around the heart of God.

 

          In the Gospel reading we also find Jesus “led by the Spirit in the wilderness.” He too is taken away from all that is familiar and comfortable and brought to a wilderness filled with temptation and risk. In a sense, it’s like he is grounded as a child would be- sent away from all pleasures, alone with his thoughts. But he is quickly met with temptation. It says that “for forty days he was tempted by the devil.” The first temptation is to turn the stone into bread. Remember that Jesus is fasting and has eaten nothing. This goes beyond mental temptation, this is physical temptation, going against the strong urge the body has to survive. The next temptation is authority over “all the kingdoms of the world.” This could certainly have been a more efficient way of Jesus influencing people- rather than all the relational/preaching/praying/healing- just outright authority, demands and power- with none of the messy stuff like touching hurting people, threats against you and unending arguments with religious officials. The last temptation is to throw himself from the pinnacle of the temple and test that he will be caught by angels. This is putting God to the test, demonstrating glory. It must have been a dizzying offer- standing at the pinnacle, looking down, lightheaded from lack of food and the potential for a moment of dazzling power.

 

          In his commentary on this passage, Luke Timothy Johnson says, “the tests would suggest to the Hellenistic reader the threefold categories of vice: love of pleasure, love of possessions, love of glory. Jesus’ refusal of these lures would identify him as a righteous person, a sage truly capable of teaching virtue.” (Sacra Pagina: Luke, pg 76). It seems that some things are timeless- like temptations. We are still in a world fraught with temptations pulling as hard as they can to bring us down the path of love of pleasure, love of possessions and love of glory.

 

          And here he is, out in the wilderness, away from everyone, where no one can see, hungry, faced with a path of suffering and pain … and all that anyone could desire is presented to him. And he walks away. He walks right out of that wilderness and right into preaching. He immediately begins his ministry. He reads from Isaiah, “The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he has anointed me to bring good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim release to the captives and recovery of sight to the blind, to let the oppressed go free.” And just as he immediately begins his ministry, he immediately is rejected. He instantly goes from being offered power and glory at the pinnacle of the temple to being run out of town by an angry mob and being offered death and pain as they try to push him off a cliff. His ministry begins with rejection.

 

          I don’t know about you, but I can say that in my own life, the times when I most need grounding, when I most need my heart steadily set on God, when I most need to be sure of who I am, is when I am facing rejection. Whether that is rejection from others or rejection from the way I hoped things would be. And watching those we love get rejected can be especially painful. We do our best to give children a strong sense of their belovedness so that when the rejection comes- when we send them off to the tough world of socialization, they will stay grounded, remembering that they are loved, remembering there is more to life than the painful feelings rejection brings and assured that they are precious in God’s sight. Jesus was grounded, he has been through the wilderness, he was sure of his relationship with God, he knew who he was and so he passes through the angry crowd and keeps at it.

 

          Perhaps you are feeling like your feet have come off the ground, like you are caught spinning in a whirlwind, unable to find the ground, reaching out and longing for peace, for stability but not sure where it went. There is certainly much in this world to leave us spinning. I don’t need to tell you that we live in a divisive and heated climate, where emotions run high and grace seems in short supply. We live in a fast paced world that is constantly pushing us toward those vices of love of possessions, love of power and love of glory. Where the road of peace is messy and hard but we are surrounded by superficial promises of an easier, more efficient path. Where morals and values are often exchanged for money and power. A world where there are endless things on our phones to distract us from our own thoughts. And perhaps, you are looking for grounding- solid footing on the solid rock that is Christ.

 

          Today is the first Sunday of Lent. It is a time when we reflect on what tempts us, what distracts us and what pulls us away from walking the deeper path with Christ. It is a set apart time when we can look at the things in our life that leave us spinning and the things that ground us. When we are called to root out that which is fleeting, selfish and shallow and dig our feet into that which is steady, loving and deep. Practices like prayer, journaling, walks, scripture reading, regular worship and deep breathing are not hard to do but are so very valuable and needed. Things that give our hearts space to feel the heart of God, quiet to hear the Spirit’s guidance and clarity to think about decisions we have made and how we want to make decisions in the future. It’s like we are being grounded. Told to step away from the things that are not life-giving and make room for the things that are life-giving. A chance to be reminded that beyond all the felt urgency and chaos and stress, we are part of a much larger story. A story of God’s unending love, of Jesus’ journey of salvation and the continual relationship God calls us into.

 

          I work as a hospital chaplain and last Wednesday I was scheduled to be there at 7 am to help distribute ashes for Ash Wednesday. If you think about it, Ash Wednesday is kind of an odd thing we do. We pray prayers of repentance, we are told we will die and then we walk away with dirt smeared on our heads. I’ve always loved it for all of its oddness and the way it takes us out of our normal routines and calls us into this special Lenten journey. But at the hospital it took on a different context that I couldn’t help but reflect on as my thumb wiped across forehead after forehead. Foreheads of family members trying to appear steady as they walked their loved one to surgery, foreheads of those who were sick and in pain, foreheads of nurses leaving an overnight shift of medicines, messes and trying their best to bring comfort, foreheads that could only be reached by slightly lifting the surgical caps of surgeons who quickly headed back for the next procedure and foreheads of fellow chaplains who will go and look into the eyes of those who are afraid, alone and facing death.

 

As I repeatedly placed my thumb into the small cup of ashes I thought about how the words I was saying, “remember that you are dust and to dust you shall return” were not shocking or unusual for these people. The reminder of death’s reality is part of their life. They do remember that they are dust and to dust they shall return because death is all around them. And as I thought of this, I felt deeply moved at how this simple practice put their experience in a larger story. A reminder for them not of a cold hard reality of death, but rather a much larger salvation story that death is but a part of. A reminder of the peaceful and loving reality of death and that not even death can separate us from the love of God. A reminder that we are not alone. We are all in this life and death together, it is something that we all continually learn to accept. And as I watched the dark bits of ash circle down the drain when I washed my hands in the hospital bathroom, I felt grounded. I knew the Holy Spirit was in that place, in the people whose eyes met mine when I touched their foreheads and in me- and the swirling chaos of the world felt quieter even with all the beeping of machines and the beds being pushed down hallways. God’s love was there, God’s love is here, let us ground ourselves in that love and a peace that passes all understanding. Amen

Sermon from St. Johns, Cohoes 2/2/24

 

Luke 2:22-40

          I had an interesting experience this week. I was invited to be part of a conversation of chaplains serving in various healthcare contexts around the area. This was an online meeting and began with a time of conversation around a passage of scripture. This group on this occasion was made up of all Christian chaplains and they were reflecting on what it means to be made new in Christ. The majority of the chaplains were originally from other countries. They talked about their experiences of becoming citizens and living in this country as immigrants. As the meeting went on, people talked about difficult visits and situations they were dealing with as chaplains, heartbreaking situations with patients struggling and grieving families. They also prayed for the victims of the plane crash. And after listening to one another, reflecting together and praying, everyone logged off and went back to the work of sitting with those who are suffering.

           It was a simple, every day, routine moment, and yet, also a beautiful and moving witness of faith. Each person came with their own unique stories, their own struggles and their own frustrations … but also each person came from such varied backgrounds and experiences, united by hope, brought together by their faith in Jesus Christ. Each person was introduced to Christ in very different parts of the world, different languages and with different traditions and yet together they understood their common source of hope. And so they do their work of ministering each day, holding space for the work of the Holy Spirit, and keeping vigil for the savior of the world.

          It got me thinking about Simeon and Anna. Day in and day out they kept vigil, living devoutly, living in service and devotion to God, holding vigil as they waited for the promised savior of the world to come.

          We do not get much time with Simeon and Anna in the Bible. We find them only in the Gospel of Luke and only for a few lines. But in those lines we get to know quite a bit. We know that Simeon was “righteous and devout” and that the “Holy Spirit rested on him.” And that he would not die until he had seen the Messiah.  And we know that Anna is referred to as a “prophet” and has been a widow living at the Temple for a long time.  And she is 84 years old.

          I have a John Wesley study Bible that I often use as part of sermon preparation. John Wesley was an Anglican priest who started the Methodist denomination. In his notes on this passage he says, “Let the example of these aged saints animate those whose [gray] heads, like theirs are a ‘crown of glory.” They both are examples of persistent belief, unwavering hope and vibrant and bold prophetic ministry even at an older age.

          I say bold and prophetic ministry because their message is not one of easy comfort. Simeon says that not everyone will follow Jesus and that Jesus is “destined for the falling and the rising of many in Israel, and to be a sign that will be opposed.” They are not here to signal that it’s all sunny skies ahead. Simeon says to Mary, “a sword will pierce your own soul too.” This is not a cozy kind of “look at the beautiful baby, what a nice boy he will be” kind of message. It’s more of a “God has saved us but buckle up …” They were not naïve in their old age. They knew Jesus would face trouble ahead- and his presence would create conflict for many.

          And yet, Anna and Simeon also had the long view. At our last church in Colorado, I helped lead a Women’s Book Group that met every week. There were several in the group who had not yet reached retirement age but several more who were older. I loved the conversations and was enriched by the shared wisdom. One of the things I always appreciated was learning from those who had come to a place where they could see the long view of things. When we would worry about things happening or panic about covid or stress about the uncertainty of life, they would stay calm and see all of it as part of the ever changing patches that make up the bigger quilt of life. They would take it in stride, recognizing that emotions, feelings and anxieties pass and that the sun will keep setting and rising. It sounds like this was where Anna and Simeon found themselves. Anna lost her husband early and fasted every day. This was not an easy life she was living, and yet she praised God when she saw Jesus. She held on to hope. She understood that even though there were difficult days, the salvation story of which she was a part, was long. And Simeon rejoiced even though he knew there would be pain and struggle because he saw the long view. Redemption had come, the Savior was here and even though division and pain would come, there is a light to enlighten the nations … for all of eternity. And I find a kind of peace in that … and comfort. The scope of faith is beyond the momentary, we are part of a much bigger story of God’s saving grace.

          In fact, I find comfort in these words every day. Some time, about a year ago, after my family moved across the country and as we were all feeling lost in a new place- trying to figure out how to create routines and make friends and find community somewhere new- I started praying Compline from the Book of Common Prayer every night. No matter how heavy my eyelids are, I reach over for the little red book on my nightstand and turn to the bookmarked page that’s become a bit crinkled. And my lips and eyes go through the Compline service as my mind wavers in and out. Some nights I am anxious or energized or feeling frantic and I find myself rushing over the words and forcing myself to pause and let my heart catch up. Some nights I come to the service with a more open heart, saddened by the changes and chances of the world and some of the words blur as a tear fills my eye. The words striking directly into my heart and the Psalms feeling like they were written exactly for this time and place. But every time, I come to these words from Simeon. It comes at the end of the service. After all the intercessions for people that I know who are hurting, after prayers for those who work through the night and those who weep through the night, after confessing my sins and remembering that the very last phrase of the Lord’s Prayer is left off in Compline, I come to the words of Simeon … at the end. It’s a slightly different translation than what is in many of our Bibles, and I think it is a bit more poetic: “Lord you now have set your servant free    to go in peace as you have promised; For these eyes of mine have seen the Savior whom you have prepared for all the world to see: A Light to enlighten the nations, and the glory of your people Israel.”

     And I feel a kind of release, like I am being sent off into dreamland in peace, my heart warmed by the light to enlighten all nations. But it also gives me pause as I am reminded that I have seen the Savior. I have not held the baby Jesus as Simeon did, but I have experienced and witnessed Christ in the world and I have been marked by the water of the baptismal font and get to call myself a Christian. It also makes me think about this light to enlighten the nations and wonder how that light has enlightened me and how I have spread that light to others … how have I been part of this spreading of light to all people?”

          It is a comfort, a hope, a peace and a challenge to all of us. What does it mean to live as a people who have seen the Savior? What does it mean to carry forth the light to enlighten the nations?

          Thinking back on that conversation I was a part of- the diverse group of chaplains opening their hearts to one another. They come together, they reflect on the Bible and what it means to be a follower of Christ. They share from their hearts and create space to hear one another and then they go forth, like Anna, to speak about the child who brings redemption … the light to enlighten the nations.

          I wonder … is that a bit like what we do here when we gather. We reflect on the scripture, we affirm our faith together, we come together to offer presence to one another, we extend peace and care, we bring our true selves, not as the world sees us but as God sees us, we experience the risen Christ in the breaking of the bread and then we go forth … to go in peace … with eyes that have seen the Savior …

Sermon from Holy Spirit ELCA John 2:1-11

 

          This past week I found myself on an unexpected trip back to where I grew up- a small town outside of Youngstown, Ohio. Because the Friday before that my best friend’s mother died. I met my best friend when I was three years old. We lived one block apart, so over the years we spent a lot of time together, eventually getting our first jobs together, visiting each other in college, standing in each other’s weddings and holding each other’s babies. Through all of that her mother was a steady presence. Someone who always welcomed me and was always there. So I was very sad when she died, but also my heart broke for my friend. She was very close to her mom and as our parents age we know that there will come a day when we will have to say goodbye, but there really is no way to prepare for it. And so I cried as I thought of her pain and grieving. And I was so overwhelmed with pride for her as she told me the story of how she sat next to her mother that final night, showering her in love, reassuring her, getting her what she needed and honoring her wishes of how she wanted to die. So when the funeral arrangements were set for last Wednesday, I bought an Amtrak ticket, packed a bag and headed to Ohio …. And I wasn’t the only one. Our other close friends also called off work, bought plane tickets and made travel plans. And the sister of my friend also had her friends coming in from all over the country. Plus, their mother’s friends and family. Many people came together.

          And with each person came more flowers and more food. Soon the kitchen table where her mother had prepared many meals, was covered in cookies and deli trays and ice cream and snacks until they piled up and overflowed onto other surfaces. People came and brought things and offered hugs and shared memories and loving words all to try to show something we couldn’t show. The piles of food and the packed rooms were all people trying to make tangible what is intangible. And that’s love. Every cracker, every lily, every car parked outside was a sign of love, a reaction to what was felt in our hearts, a way to show the abundance of feelings that cannot be seen but only felt. And we all hoped that it would bring love and comfort and warmth to their grieving hearts.

 

          I thought about this as I was looking out the window on my train home Thursday and reflecting on today’s Gospel passage. I have sometimes heard this passage used as a way to show God’s blessing on weddings or parties or even drinking. But I wonder …is that perhaps looking at the materials rather than the reason? Like someone bringing cookies to the home of a grieving loved one and that being interpreted as “they really think cookies are special and important” rather than seeing the intent behind it? The Gospel of John refers to what happened at this wedding in Cana as a “sign” and of course signs point to something else. Just like a cookie or flowers brought to the grieving, the water turned to wine is about the love behind it. God’s love for God’s people- something intangible represented by something tangible.

 

          God loves us. And in order to show that love, God comes to be with us through Jesus and Jesus performs signs and miracles to show that love here on earth.  A way of making something invisible, visible. God’s love poured out for us through giant containers of wine filled to the brim.

           And the Gospel tells us that they really were full and there were many. It was an abundance. There was no shortage. And it was noticeable and appreciated by the guests. The image of a heavenly banquet is used frequently in the Bible. A depiction of a great feast with ample food with all needs met and an abundance of blessings. This is the image God gives us for our final reunion with God into eternity. Overflowing, abundant love.

          But Jesus does not stand up and announce to the crowd that it was him who did this. And yet, the text says the disciples saw this and believed in him. All of this is about convincing his followers that he is who he says he is. That Jesus is God and his words and actions are a sign of God’s love for us.

          But, in addition to the disciples, there is another example of one who believes in this text. I’ve always found the exchange with Mary at the beginning of this passage a little odd and not at all how one would expect a conversation between mother and son to go. So I did a bit of digging and in his commentary on this passage, Biblical Scholar Gilberto Ruiz, explains the kind of stiff and formal language Jesus uses with Mary. When Mary tells Jesus that there is no more wine he says, “Woman, what concern is that to you and to me? My hour has not yet come.” It sounds a bit like “who cares and stop bothering me” and if either of my sons referred to me as “woman” I would definitely be taken aback. But, Ruiz explains that this language was not at all rude or even unusual for that time. It was common to address someone as “woman” and the expression he uses is “a common Semitic expression that implies a sense of disengagement, not active hostility.” That said, even in those days, it was not typical family talk and implies some distance in the conversation between Jesus and his mom. This is not about a mother/son moment, but rather about understanding God’s timing.

          Mary is not taken aback by this exchange and turns around and says to the servants, “do whatever he tells you.” She is not bewildered or hesitant or upset, she is completely confident that Jesus will do the right thing. His explanation that “his hour has not yet come” seems to make sense to her as she trusts his understanding of God’s time regardless of whatever sense of urgency people may feel. Mary seems to completely get all of it. In telling him about the wine, she understands what he can do and in telling the servants to do whatever he says, she trusts him, his timing and his decision-making fully. Of course, we are not far past Christmas so many of us still have the image of Mary at the birth witnessing the angels in our minds, so it may not be surprising that she understands all of this, but still an incredible witness of faith and trust right from the beginning, when Jesus is first building his following.

         What Mary understood and what the disciples were starting to see is that God provides. And as they drank their wine, maybe it was easy for the disciples to believe, but over time as they journeyed with Jesus and began to understand just what that means, and how far it would go- it perhaps became more difficult, especially as they watched him suffer and die. And yet, Jesus understood it all and continued to show through actions, signs, miracles and words that God provides abundance. Abundant love, abundant care and an abundant desire to be in relationship with us. The intangible love poured out for us through wine. The invisible grace made visible through the body of Christ.

          Last Wednesday after I went to the funeral I went over to my friend’s house. A house that hosted many sleepovers, dinners, holidays and parties. A house I know better than my own. An address that will forever be ingrained in my memory. I wasn’t sure what it would be like going there knowing my friend’s mom wouldn’t be there. What would it be like to see her things still around, her bed empty and her family missing her deeply. Soon after I entered, my friends’ very young daughters and nieces handed me a little ticket and begged everyone to please come downstairs for the performance. We obediently took our places and paid close attention as the Taylor Swift music began playing and they began their performance of twirls, cartwheels, spins, hair flips and giggles. They were holding hands and spinning as their tiny faces lit up with joy. And we all smiled with them and applauded and enthusiastically “oooohed and aaaaahhhed” every wild and energetic moment.

           I thought I would be entering a house that felt empty … and my friend’s mom’s absence was deeply felt and very real …. But the house was not empty. Where I thought there might be emptiness was actually full of abundance. Those little girls loved their grandma and will miss her dearly, but in every smile and giggle and hug for each other, their grandma’s memory was present, her legacy passed on and her deep love for them present. God provides. Of course that doesn’t mean we don’t hurt or grieve, or long for or suffer … but God’s abundance continues to pour out onto us.

 As a hospital chaplain I hear many stories of grief and loss. People will share with me their deepest stories of hurt- losing loved ones and figuring out how to go on without them. I usually ask them what helped them get through those darkest times and again and again I see their face lighten as they look at me and say “God …. That’s the only way I got through.” Something intangible made tangible through strength and perseverance, hope and resiliency. Water into wine … cookies on the table …. Abundance where there was emptiness.